yesterday i talked about how women are selfish with well....almost everything. the thing is, we keep supporting them. i will mention my being single for more than a year...again. i have had a couple of chicks on my list, but the allure of a chase sipped out of me long time. playing hard to get to me is ancient.we live in a world where we can't afford to waste any time let lone resources, we are always up and down doing this or that. but there are other reasons i am still single. i search for 2 things in a girl. one, tht we can communicate and understand each other. if we can not make useful conversations no reveal our thoughts and feelings to each other, how would we date? second, that i can at least present you to my pals. if i wouldn't be comfortable with you around them, it would't work out.that's why most the girls i know have never met my close circle of pals...nothing personal. another issue that i consider, is equality in the relationship.
they say in every relationship there's always one who reaches out and another who is reached out for. i can't date you if it looks like i am doing myself a favor by dating you. if you are the only one who calls, foots the bill, seems like you are getting cheated on most of the time...it ain't worth it. according to me, for relationship to be balanced,the chick has to be the one reaching out. from history we have heard women marrying men who are older, taller, more muscular. it was all about safety those days. these days, the physical part of relationships has been undermined. or rather, we pretend that we do not care, but we are just living in denial. in relationships where one feels inadequate, they tend to do weird things. low self esteem shouldn't exist in a relationship mostly on the man's part. being the man in a relationship is not possible if you are feeling inadequate.
i remember my first chick. i vibed her for more than a year. that was in 2003, you remember when we still had land lines in our homes. after homework, i would call this chick, almost daily. unluckily for me, it was mostly her mum or dad who picked and they had to then divert me to her.this went on for months, i called and we often talked for a while, but i never got much reciprocation.i asked her to be my girl but waited for like two terms just to be told, 'i would, but i'm afraid of how Shem(another guy in class who had set sights on her) would feel'. so i went on that long December holiday distraught, but come the next year, my final year, i was back to my normal self.free of burden. luckily or unluckily,Shem transfered to another school so didn't make it beginning of the year. i was indifferent about the whole issue, it was obvious i wasn't really wanted.weeks passed then events started unfolding. some girls started up the whole issue of how Shem was now out of the picture, i took to it, popped the question again and this time i was accepted to my delight. it was a crazy relationship. we never did anything, not even hold hands, kissed just once by accident and what hurt me most is that on valz wen i shop liffted that gift i mentioned some time back, almost the whole class had a taste of it, most except me of course.
you do not want a woman sitting on your head. ask someone who has a woman for a boss, they know.so if you are not at par with a chick in a relationship, u better off not being with her. think about it...
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